Mystery of the Russian smile

Not unlike the iconic matryoshka (матрёшка) dolls, Russian people may be quite different from your first impression upon meeting them. The Russian smile, or lack of it, is one example. I am just one of the many who noticed this.

Russia was at the centre of the world’s attention when it hosted the World Cup last summer. Naturally, I was keen to follow the news. More than the football itself however, what was most memorable for me was a BBC video about how Russian transport workers are taking classes on how to smile at foreigners.

The Russian way

Why would people need to take a class on how to smile? Smiling at strangers is normal in daily life in the West, especially in America. It is a sign of friendliness and that one is not a threat. In Russia however, “laughing for no reason is a sign of stupidity” and in some cases may look “alien and suspicious” according to some participants in this training.

My (limited) experience with Russians points towards the same. Customer service culture is not common. No polite smiles or niceties to please guests, sometimes they can even be rude. When I first meet Russian people in Stockholm, where I live, a serious handshake and introduction is enough, no smiles either.

Yet, does this mean Russians are unfriendly? It depends on what your definition of friendliness is. My experience is that despite a colder exterior, I have made close Russian friends over time and in fact it is easier than making Swedish friends, who are famous for being reserved and shy. Once we are friends, it was easy to hang out together, and they typically invite me places and do thoughtful gestures. They are curious about your life. And then, the Russian smile is no longer elusive.

Perhaps there is an initial wariness of strangers, but it is clear that it only takes some effort to get them to warm up. Once they see that you are trustworthy, it will be a sea change from your first impression of them. This is something I still have to get used to. For me, I expect about the same politeness from people regardless if they’re a stranger, an acquaintance or a friend. Russians seem to be very clear about these distinctions and how they treat these groups of people differently.

Changing times?

Things may be different for younger Russians, though, who has more contact with “the West” than the Soviet generations. One Russian acquaintance of mine in Stockholm is Yulia. She moved to Sweden to study her Master’s degree. She smiles freely as would an average Swede, to strangers as well as friends. When I told her about the smiling classes in Russia, she shrugged and said nonchalantly “Of course! It is good to have that!” as if such training is the most normal thing in the world.

She also told me this is how Aeroflot flight attendants can tell who are the Russians and who are the foreigners. Once, as a test, she smiled to Russian flight attendants serving food. They then asked Yulia which food she would like to have. In English.

For most people in Moscow though, a straight face is still the norm. To blend in with the crowd in the Moscow metro, I myself will have my a poker face on. The Russian smile can wait.

Posted by Nick Nguyen

I am Nick from Liden & Denz Saint Petersburg, spending the summer improving my Russian. Follow me on a journey into Russian culture, the beautiful and the strange.